Seeds of Doubt Lead to Seeds of Promise: Positive Stress Leads to Success

If you happen to be job-hunting over the age of 40, after many years of being firmly entrenched in the same company, industry or location, you’re probably feeling that is a daring project in and of itself – which it is.  In that case, plant something new that improves your physical health, ramps up your intellectual power and unleashes beneficial brain chemicals that contribute to your well-being.  Here are just a few insights and advice regarding how physical activity, social engagement and intellectual improvements go hand in hand, literally, especially if you’re dealing with added stress.

1.)  If Your Sneakers Are Moldy, Your Brain Will Get Oldie. A few years ago, the only weight I ever pushed around came from the sound of my own mouth. Three year later, with dozens of pounds lost, I can attest that exercise saved my life, improved my well-being and enhanced my intellectual focus. Here’s why it would work for you:

  • Dr. John Medina, a developmental molecular biologist, says in his book, “Brain Rules,” that a lifetime of exercise can result in a sometimes astonishing elevation in cognitive performance, compared with those who are sedentary. Medina asserts that exercisers outperform couch potatoes in all sorts of brain metrics tests, such as those that measure long-term memory, reasoning, attention, problem-solving, even so-called fluid-intelligence tasks – which refer to how you put to use the information that you learn.
  • You don’t even have to exercise that long or hard to reap these benefits! Did you know that even walking several times a week will benefit your brain? The ideal is doing two to three bouts of aerobic exercise for at least 30 minutes – which can reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s by 60%!
  • Exercise improves your mood because it stimulates the release of three feel good chemicals in your brain. Called neurotransmitters, their medical names are serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine. By stimulating the release of these hormones, exercise has been proven to help lower depression and anxiety, especially in women over 40.  So, get out there and walk off the stress, or go for a bike ride, or – if you’re not the outdoorsy type – put on some music and dance like a fool in your own home.

2.)  If the only laugh lines you have are from watching late-night comedians riff on politics, you need to get some real fun into your life.  When was the last time you had a conversation with a friend who made you laugh? More importantly, when was the last time you actually felt you could cry with a good friend who wouldn’t judge you?  Maybe now’s the time to consider going beyond your current circle of friends or all those online LinkedIn connections.  (Would you ever want any of them to see you with streaked mascara?  I didn’t think so.)

Additional tips:

  • According to psychoanalyst, educator and author, Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D., positive social interactions are a powerful mechanism for controlling stress.  So, it’s good to be proactive about cultivating, engaging and caring about people you really want as friends. Connections with true friends and family members are what matter to your well-being.
  • As women talk with other women about worrisome occurrences in their lives, their stress levels fall because oxytocin (the maternal friendship and bonding hormone) levels rise. Even during non-stressful times, having solid friendships has been proven to improve health and extend one’s lifespan.
  • If you’ve been a mom for most of your adult life, getting involved in organizations other than your children’s school or church expands your perspectives.  Also, try to make friends with people of different ages, especially those younger than you.  One of my favorite things about teaching college students is that they seem to teach me more year after year than I thought possible.  And, I love that they seek me out for advice long after the courses are over. 

3.)  Unchain Your Brain, Train Against the Drain. Learning a new language, volunteering your skills to a social cause, or learning to play a musical instrument, are all exercises to unchain your brain. To plant or seed something new, challenging and fulfilling while waiting for the next big thing to take seed, it’s also a good idea to engage in an activity that is not related to a work situation or family demand.  Here’s why:

  • Taking up new intellectual and social activities stimulates different neural regions and develops new pathways within the brain.  This helps to re-energize the brain against the dreaded “brain-drain” many women complain about in middle age, and helps you see problems in a different light.   
  • The more you stimulate the neural regions and pathways, the more adept you become at the new skill or activity you’re learning. It increases your self-confidence that you can, indeed, learn new things.
  • There are nine different kinds of intelligence, but most people neglect to explore, let alone develop, those outside their comfort zone. Conversely, we all know of artists, musicians, business-owners and scientists who did their best work after the age of 40, 50 or even 60.  By developing different intellectual capabilities, they surpassed the creativity and productivity of their youth in ways they never would have dared or imagined earlier in their lives.

Those are just a few of the reasons WHY planting something new – physically, socially or intellectually – can be beneficial both in the short run and over the long haul, especially in times of stress.  Now go out DARE and find WHAT works for you! There’s no limit to why, what, where and how you can grow by daring yourself!



1 comment for “Seeds of Doubt Lead to Seeds of Promise: Positive Stress Leads to Success

  1. 10/27/2014 at 8:47 pm

    Hi there, I found your blog through your FB page and it’s awesome! You obviously have fun being over 40 as have I. We have a lot in common and to share with other women over 40. I am focused more on career creation that I believe is soooo important especially when over 40. Anyway, I just wanted to express my support and if you feel like sharing, here is my page that I am building no on FB: Career Alchemy for Women.
    Cheers and good luck with what you do,
    Karolina Maya

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